a person or persons who take the responsibility to make sure that your real life meeting with a prospective play partner is safe. This can range from actually “chaperoning” the meeting to setting up “safe calls” and so forth. This is a requirement for submissive's, not an option, as it is the only defence they have against predators, rapists, and con artists. Learn how to set one up and set them up religiously. Even vanilla women should learn to do this